Happy July! Happy Friday! Today is an especially happy Friday for me because I have next week off! It'll be a mix of a staycation and lake vacation as I'll be in Minneapolis Saturday-Tuesday and at the lake Wednesday-Sunday. I can't wait!
Here's my recap for the month of June. Similar to last month, I'm skipping a recap of my workouts because yaaaaaawn. And I also added an article that's worth reading, especially for fellow Midwesterners as you likely have some reserved men in your lives.
On Being: The Myth of Closure - In this podcast, the host interviews Professor Pauline Boss. Boss specializes in grief and loss, and one of her areas of expertise is "ambiguous loss." An example of ambiguous loss is losing a person mentally, but not physically, which is what happens when a loved one suffers from dementia. Phil lost his dad to Alzheimer's and several of my friends have lost parents, so the topic of grief and loss is pertinent for me as the better my understanding, the more I can support those who have lost loved ones. One thing I really loved about this podcast was her emphasis on the fact that we can not expect closure when we lose a loved one; instead, it's something we will grieve for the rest of our lives. I also thought it was interesting how she emphasized that the 5 stages of grief were never meant to apply to the living - they were designed as a framework for those preparing for death to deal with the reality of dying.
I read 7 books in June. My favorite book was Wonder. It's a middle-grade novel but I think most adults would benefit from reading it. I loved its message of "being kinder than is necessary." The starred books are books I read for the read harder challenge; the bolded books are physical books I already owned so those count toward my "read 12 books I own" challenge for 2016.
The Distant Hours by Kate Morton - 3 stars
The Life We Bury by Allen Eskens - 3 stars
Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed by Meghan Daum* - 2 stars
Burnt Mountain by Anne Rivers Siddons - 2 stars
Wonder by R.J. Palacio* - 5 stars
The Portable Veblen by Elizabeth Mckenzie - 3 stars
Momo by Michael Ende - 3 stars
After a couple of months of feeling blah about my looks, I have a couple of outfits to share!
Last month I bought a couple things from Cabi, including these bright citron-colored pants. I am sure that some people think this color is obnoxious, but bright-colored pants are my jam!
My second look doesn't feature anything new. I got the top from Stitch Fix last summer and the skirt is a Banana Republic skirt that I have had for many years. I like the color combination of the khaki and bright blue, and of course I love that the top is striped!
How my dad's reserve prepared me for life with Minnesota men - This short essay about reserved men perfectly describes the kind of men my dad and Phil are. They are quiet and reserved and not prone to big shows of emotion, and they prefer to show their love through actions, not words. The paragraphs below really express the essence of how my dad and Phil express their love.
"This is how my dad expresses himself: It’s not that he never says “I love you,” it’s that he feels the truth of it more in action than in words. (If my) Dad heard I needed something that he could provide, ... he quietly provided it. He is allergic to making a show of something, even when there is legitimate sentiment behind it. In Dad Land, you must never mistake a lack of words for an absence of feeling. In fact, it is the opposite: The more intense the emotion, the less likely you’ll ever hear a word about it. So you have to pay attention.
... I have to remind myself to listen to the actions of the Minnesota men in my life, because the expression of their affection and loyalty is so underplayed. Everyone is so circumspect. No one wants to make anyone uncomfortable with an outpouring of emotion."
Happy July, everyone! Happy Canada Day to my Canadian friends and Happy 4th of July to my American friends! I'm taking next week off from blogging so will check back with all of you when I return from my time at the lake.