I don't want to bore you all with wedding planning talk but over the course of the next several months, I thought I'd share some wedding-planning updates. For this first post, I thought I'd share some of the decisions we've made, especially those that sort of 'buck' the trend of what most couples decide to do.
1. We set the date! Before we got engaged, we had talked about having a short engagement, so I knew we'd have to jump right into wedding planning. Our goal was to get married in May (Phil thought we could get married even sooner but he had no idea how much going into planning a wedding...) and luckily we were able to find a church and venue that are available in May. So our wedding will be on Friday, May 19th!! We either wanted a Friday night or Saturday morning wedding, but with a 5 month engagement, Saturday morning was out as the church we wanted to get married at didn't have any Saturdays open in May. I know that Friday night weddings are inconvenient, especially for out-of-town guests, but we know that the most important people in our lives will find a way to be there. And I'm mentally preparing myself ahead of time for a lower acceptance rate when the RSVPs start to roll in.
2. Small wedding party. I've been in 10 (!!!) weddings so I knew I'd either have to have 2 bridesmaid or like 8. After talking it over with Phil, we decided to keep our wedding party small. My 2 sisters will be my matrons of honor and Phil will select 2 friends to stand up by him on our special day. There are some benefits to having a small wedding party as we'll have fewer people to corral for photos and it will reduce the cost of flowers since we'll have to make fewer boutonnieres/bouquets.
3. Apparel decisions. I will wear a traditional white gown, but we are skipping bridesmaid dresses and instead I've asked my sisters to pick out a navy dress to wear, which they are both on board with. I've been in so many weddings and have never re-worn a bridesmaid dress so I'd prefer they spend money on something they will wear again. This is not a knock against others who have selected bridesmaid dresses. I just feel that as I get older, what 'matters most' to me changes, and having my sisters in dresses that are a similar style or made of the same fabric just doesn't matter to me. Additionally, the guys won't be renting tuxes or suits; instead we will ask them to wear a gray suit. The color of their suits will likely vary but, again, it's a detail that just doesn't matter all that much to us. I've seen more weddings these days where the bridesmaids wear different hues of dresses, so I think it will work just fine to have the guys in different hues of gray.
4. No wedding dance. While Phil and I enjoy dancing at others' weddings, we have decided not to have a wedding dance. We are going to have so many out-of-town guests that we don't see very often. I would rather spend our time visiting with them versus feeling like we need to be on the dance floor. So instead of a dance, we'll have more time for socializing after dinner.
Those are a handful of decisions we've made so far that are a little bit 'different'. But I feel good about the choices we have made. I can already tell that I'm not going to be one of those people that LOVES wedding planning, but in moments of stress, I'm going to try to keep my eye on the prize: marrying Phil!
Have you planned a wedding? If so, did you make any/many non-traditional decisions?