Monday, December 30, 2019

2020 Goals

It's the penultimate day of the year! Whew, 2019 went fast. The phrase "the days are long but the years are short" has never felt more true! As I wrote up the recap of the past decade, it was pretty mind-boggling to see how much activity and travel I used to pack into a calendar year. That is no longer the case as I have really, really simplified our life since having a child. But we still packed in plenty of memories and laughter - plus some tears - into the past year. It was a good year.

This past year I worked on a 19 in 2019 list, which was fun. For next year, I've decided to simplify things and have just 2 goals:

1. Complete the Modern Mrs. Darcy reading challenge - I haven't done a reading challenge in several years, but the MMD one only has 10 categories, so it feels very doable for a person who reads 80+ books a year (this year I read over 100!). I have a page in my bullet journal to track my progress towards this goal! It's been fun to plan out the books I will potentially read for each category - I still have some blank categories but will figure them out soon so I have a plan!

2. Workout 3 times/week - Since becoming a mom, I have struggled to make time to workout. I'm gone 10 hours/day between working and commuting and am busy with Paul until he goes to bed around 7-7:30. So it feels impossible to fit in a workout. But then I read this post by the time management guru, Laura Vanderkam, and it really resonated with me. Here is an excerpt:

"Three times a week is a habit. Honestly, this mantra can be life-changing. Aiming to do something daily — as in 7 days a week, or even 5 — can make people give up. But for most things, daily isn’t necessary. Things do not have to happen daily — nor do they have to happen at the same time every day — in order to count in our lives. Anything you do three times a week has a regular place in your life. And often aiming for three times a week is quite doable."
It made me realize I was getting hung up on my pre-Paul definition of working out - which was working out 5-6 times/week. That is no longer a reality for me, at least not for the foreseeable future. My goal is to workout on Saturday and Sunday and one additional weeknight after Paul goes to bed. That seems doable! Phil is around on the weekends to help with Paul and now that we have a finished basement with some of Paul's toys, Paul can play with those toys while I fit in a workout if he needs to be close to mama (which seems to always be the case these days).

I made this workout tracker in my bullet journal. I'll cross out the days I worked out. I got a head start on this goal and worked out this past Saturday and Sunday. Both days Paul was content to hang out with dad so that was nice!

And that is it for goals! I'll be tracking both of my goals in my bullet journal. Here's hoping I'm successful!

Have you set any goals for 2020?


katielookingforward said...

I agree, 3 times per week is a great habit! My significant other wants to do a bike event and a rollerblade event, so I've started looking up training plans and the ones that are 4 or more workouts per week I know will never happen. Even without kiddos, life is busy. I want workouts to feel good, but not feel like more of a burden than a blessing.

Kelly (She Wears a Red Sox Cap) said...

3x a week has been my mom workout routine as well. I’ve kept it up now for several years. Sure some weeks I can do more if I have a day off or something but for the average week it works well. I hope you will find it works for you! I think I started my 3 day a week routine when Max was about Paul’s age :) He did often hang out nearby during some and now most times Max is off somewhere but Jack likes to be around. He gets annoyed that I do fitness blender videos on mute lol.

Jolene - EverydayFoodie said...

That bullet journal is really cool! I might have to look into getting one of those. I have random things written on random papers all over the darn place, and that makes it really annoying when I am trying to find what I am looking for. For instance, like you, I wanted to keep track of my top reads this year, although now I have to find the list of everything I've read ... wherever I put it ...

I have gone through stages in my life where I haaaaad to work out 5 days a week, or every day for 30 minutes, or whatever, and it always felt like a chore to me. So now, I just try to move more, and more, and more each day, but with no rules. I often catch myself doing squats while cooking, or dancing up a storm for a half-hour straight if we put on the right music, haha! I am the kind of person who has a hard time working out just to work out, so I try to incorporate it into my day as much as possible and make it as fun as I can.

The book challenge sounds fun! I just ordered four new books with gift cards I had for Indigo, and I got one book for Christmas, so I am so excited to dive into them.

Gracie said...

Great idea to set a reasonable goal that can be a habit, and I do think 3/week is the sweet spot: not too often so that you fail and give up, but not so rarely that it doesn't become ingrained. I do have a gym membership, but I find myself doing weights at home far more often than at the gym (if I do strength at the gym, I usually do balance work on a Bosu ball or use other equipment I don't have at home). One of the best purchases I made for home workouts was a $20 adjustable dumbbell set from WalMart! I use it all the time, and it really gives me flexibility when choosing what workout to do: I can do anything involving body weight only up to 36lb. I also have some mini-bands so that I can make body-weight only workouts a little more effective. Just some shopping ideas that may help!

Jeanie said...

Wonderful goals! Mine? To work on HOME -- my word of the year. Both the physical space here and up north and the home of me, body, mind and soul. We'll see how it goes!

Happy New Year!

The Many Thoughts of a Reader said...

For overall 2020 my goals are read 60 books, follow a cleaning schedule, get back to monthly m meal planning, and drink more water. I track in goodreads, I made a plan in my notebook I have been using as a list maker/planner, made a January plan (utilizing an old cookbook I hadn't used in awhile and I plan on busting out others this year too when we get in ruts), outlined February's, and made my January water check off.

Stephany said...

I love these simple goals! I can't wait to see the books you pick for the MMD book challenge!

I set a yearly workout goal (150, which works out to about 3 times a week) because I know how easy it is for me to get down on myself if I go a week or two without hitting my workout goal. This way, I am able to "catch up" if I have a week or two where I don't work out. One of my friends approaches working out this way and is now working out 200+ times a year, which is so inspirational to me!

Amber said...

Those are great goals for the year! I have decided not to set any big goals for this year but rather will set some small quarterly goals and just review each quarter where my life is at and what feels doable. For Q1, my goals are to complete a round of Whole30 (hopefully starting that this week), stay off social media on the weekends and book a 2020 trip for our family. I think the 3x/week workout goal is a great one. If I didn't have the option to workout early in the morning and at lunch I wouldn't workout as much as I do. I also tend to never do workouts longer than 30 mins at home these days. Yesterday when I was doing my 20 min HIIT workout downstairs with Olivia she was jumping around and "doing" some of the moves with me, it was super cute! So hopefully Paul likes hanging out with you while you workout!

San said...

I love that you stick to two main goals that you want to focus on. I think if the list is long, we easily get overwhelmed by too many changes and wonder why we can't stick to anything.